Am I Leaving It Until Too Late to Get Married?
Shilpa Shetty might have despaired at not finding the man she would tie the knot with until she met Raj Kundra, but when she did find ‘The’ man, not only was she overjoyed that she had waited until the ‘right guy’ had arrived but felt that marrying in her thirties was the best thing she did. “I’m way more mature, and when I look back at some of the things I did , or how possessive I have been in relationships I feel it gave me time to be more complete. To see things in a better perspective. It worked out brilliantly, to marry late.”
They say thirty is the new twenty. That it’s obsolete to marry in ones early twenties. I also feel that there is so much to achieve , so much to savour in this new world of opportunity and experience. To marry young is to invite more responsibility at too young an age. And so many people like Shilpa find that to tie the ‘knot’ just after ones education is like putting a stop to a life of growth and piling up oneself with an existence of responsibility and duty that limits personal development.
Statistics support this argument in the US where divorce rates have dropped to their lowest since 1970, as people wed later in life. ‘People are taking longer to decide who they'll marry and more are considering financial security’ according to matrimonial lawyers and sociologists. Studies show that more highly educated people tend to marry at an older age. In our globalized economy both have better jobs, and incomes are better when the couple marry late, so there is also less financial strain in marriage.
Time teaches you so much, and you bring those learning’s into a relationship and Shilpa Shetty agrees passionately- “you are less brash than you were and able to handle situations better that when you are young and less secure. I was so much more clingie. If I put myself into a man’s shoes I think back at how irritating I was to deal with. I’m far more calm now and it goes into making my marriage smooth. I’d totally recommend a later marriage in today’s day and age.”
Article Published In The Deccan Chronicle & Asian Age